7. LOST BAGS!

Humour me and take yourself back to that moment when you are waiting patiently at the baggage reclaim carousel and the belt stops moving and you realise that today is just not your lucky day. Your bag has not made the same journey as you and you are miles away from home without any clothes, and more importantly, without any tennis kit, including racquets. What a nightmare! The stress this causes is off the scale. It is bad enough when it is you, or when it is your player and you are with them, but so incredibly hard when it is your player and they are alone in a country they don’t know, they don’t speak the local language and they are distraught. As a parent, you just want to go and fetch them; bring them home; and give them the biggest hug you can, to take all the stress away.

Lost luggage is becoming an increasingly common occurrence unfortunately. The first time it happened to me (and my player) was when we travelled via a familiar British airline to Philadelphia, USA. All seemed to be fine until, whilst waiting to pass through US Immigration, the mobile phone of literally everyone in the line ‘pinged’ in harmony. We were all being advised that we were now safely in the USA but that all of our bags were still in a pile at London Heathrow. What a disaster! We had no clothes, no racquets, no kit, no toiletries – absolutely nothing apart from what we were wearing and the bits and bobs we had taken to pass the time away on the flight. Fat lot of use any of that stuff was to us!

Feeling totally deflated we left the airport and headed to the club where the tournament was being held and just when we thought the situation could not possibly get any worse we were advised that the club would not make any allowances for the lost kit i.e no delayed first match, and advised us that all match kit had to be completely white (a la Wimbledon) so we headed off to Dick’s (no joke) Sporting Goods in search of everything white. It is not easy to find all white kit anywhere at the best of times and this was no exception. On top of that we had to find shoes (white of course), racquets, and all the essentials (underwear, toiletries etc) with no idea as to whether or not we would get any form of compensation for the expenses we incurred.

Needless to say the tournament did not go well and we headed home three days later – and eventually our bags were delivered to our house but not before the stress of the whole experience had reached record levels and our desire to visit Philadelphia again had been totally destroyed.

The second bag loss saga also happened in the US. We were booked on a flight to Buenos Aires from New York – a somewhat roundabout trip to avoid Hurricane Irma that was destroying parts of Florida (our original destination) at the time. We landed in Buenos Aires but to my dismay my bag was no where to be seen. Delivered at bag drop at exactly the same time as my players’ bag, my item had managed to take a flight to Canada and was found circling a baggage reclaim belt in Toronto airport. Unbelievably however, the bag was placed on the next flight to Buenos Aires and I was reunited with it the next day. Incredible but so much unnecessary stress!

Another ‘bag loss’ time was on a flight from London to Leipzig via Dusseldorf. All the passengers managed to make the two flights but once again, some of the bags got ‘forgotten’ in Dusseldorf – just how does this happen? Is it the laziness of baggage handlers or a flawed system whereby the bags are not counted off and back onto planes? Once again, new clothes had to be bought; shoes and racquets had to be borrowed but the bags did eventually show up three days later and in time for the latter stages of the tournament. The bad thing on this occasion however, was that the airline (Eurowings) would only honour a 70% refund for the (essential) goods we had to purchase – what the hell is that all about – how can an airline simply think that we only need 70% of the clothes and toiletries that we usually have?

Almost as bad as lost luggage, is luggage that has clearly been interfered with by airport staff. My player was travelling not so long ago from one tournament to another within Israel. On arrival at the second location it was obvious that her bag has been completely ransacked – not a simple security check but a real case of complete upheaval. I get the random security checks that need to be done but close inspection of underwear and other personal items is surely not necessary?

The most recent and on-going baggage tale I will recount happened only recently. My player travelled to Belgrade, Serbia. Her bag however, did not arrive. She reported this to lost luggage on arrival but upon close inspection of her baggage receipt it was clear that no tracking was possible as the printer had been misaligned when printing the receipt and the number on her ticket was unreadable. Lots of panic calls home followed and on the assumption that this particular bag would never be traced, I decided to pack up an emergency bag – as a carry on – filled with spare kit and a couple of non customised racquets – and head out on a rescue mission – just hoping that I could get racquets through security in my hand luggage! Not my intended plan for the week but needs must when your player is in ‘trouble’ and they need kit fast. By the end of the week, my player was still without her bag – in fact there has been zero communication from Air Serbia as to where the bag actually is, despite numerous e mails sent to their lost luggage address. Against all odds (with no kit), she managed to make the final and tried hard to remain focused on the job in hand which is actually incredibly difficult when you do not have all your usual possessions with you. Hard too as a parent as my role during this impromptu trip, was not only as a parent and supporter but also a ‘sourcer’ of new/replacement kit, travel claim co-ordinator, logistics manager, and chief communicator between airlines and airports in the vain attempt to find the lost item and arrange its’ safe return (if ever found) to base in the UK.

Let’s just hope the bag and my player are reunited very soon. It is not until you detail out the contents of a pro sports persons bag that you can appreciate the financial and personal value of the kit that they need to carry out their daily job. I just wish that the airlines could appreciate this more and take more care of peoples possessions, especially when their livelihood depends on them having the contents of their bag!

So I guess the moral of this story is multifold. In the first instance, pack as much kit (shoes, racquets, clothes etc) as you can in your hand luggage. Clearly label and tag your Hold bag and make sure it gets onto the conveyor belt before you leave check in. Make a detailed list of all items in the bag you are entrusting to the baggage handlers. Place a tracking device in your luggage in the vain attempt that at least you can track your bag even if the airline is incapable of doing this. Have a plan as to what you are going to do if your bag does disappear into the black hole of lost luggage and have adequate travel insurance to cover any claim. And finally, be very grateful each time your bag does appear on that carousel in your destination airport and you can breathe a huge sigh of relief that your player has her kit and can go about her job in the usual fashion.

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6. TICKET TO RIDE

One of the most amazing things about the tennis tours is the extent of travel that is involved and the opportunities it affords to see parts of the world that you would never imagine going to.

As the parent of a player I have been lucky enough to travel far and wide – from Reykjavik in Iceland to Melbourne, Australia; from Santiago, Chile to New York, USA; from Stavanger in Norway to Gimcheon, South Korea. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would have the opportunity to visit even half of the places I have been to to date – all in the name of tennis.

Even on the junior tour, if a player is serious about the game then they have to be prepared to travel far and wide in pursuit of tournaments and opportunities to challenge and improve their game.

The principle things that are different however, about travelling with tennis are that invariably, and certainly at the junior and lower levels of the womens tour, the tournaments are frequently held in small, often ‘back of beyond’ clubs, miles away from anywhere. But the upside of this is that you get to see parts of a country that few tourists would venture to. The downside however, is that you rarely get to see the attractions that a city such as Rome, for example, may offer. The reason for this being that once you are out of a tournament, you need to get back on the road pretty much immediately, and either head home (to save on accommodation costs) or onto the next tournament, which could be absolutely anywhere!

So if you are a relative newcomer to the game or a parent whose child is about to embark on the tour, be prepared to travel! Keep your passports up to date and use the tennis as your ticket to see the world. My player is only 22 and already she has been to over 45 countries! Try to make time to see at least one attraction during your visit – like the Blue Lagoon in Iceland or the Panama Canal; the Empire State building in New York and the Burj Khalifa in downtown Dubai; Lake Como in Italy and the Sydney Opera House. Speak to the locals and embrace their culture. Let tennis take you to the corners of the globe and enjoy the ride! 

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5. IS YOUR PLAYER ‘PRO READY?’

With the grass court season starting and Wimbledon just around the corner, people young and old all around the country will be dusting off their tennis racquets, searching their cupboards for tennis balls, tying up their newly cleaned trainers and heading for the local courts. It’s a time when everyone thinks they can be the next Serena, Andy or Rafa.

However, you are the parent of an up coming junior and your head is firmly in the game. You truly believe that your player really can become one of the top athletes in the game and the results are coming in. However, becoming a pro tennis player is not just about being able to hit a ball well; being physically fit; and winning matches. It is so much more and any player (and player parent) needs to consider the following before truly committing to many years of hard graft with no guarantee of success and financial stability at the end of it all.

Being ‘Pro Ready’ means many things including:

  • Having a clear goal of where you want to get to in your chosen sport and a strong desire to do all that you can to reach that goal whilst accepting that it may take years.
  • Having an ability to self motivate on a daily basis and train and play with high intensity even when you are feeling down or off colour.
  • Being organised and driven to be the best you can be at all times.
  • Illustrating an eagerness to learn and a willingness to take on board constructive criticism and advice.
  • Not taking everything for granted and being prepared to work for results at all times.
  • Being selfish but respectful on the court and courteous, considerate and understanding off the court.
  • Being prepared to work consistently on all aspects of your game – physical, technical, tactical and mental.
  • Being keen and willing to learn from other people in the game (coaches and players). Being prepared to watch and review them and critique them to identify key learning points.
  • Having self discipline when it comes to training; nutrition; and socialising.
  • Being prepared to make sacrifices (personally, socially, financially) for the love of the game.
  • Being grateful for the talent you have been given and not taking it for granted.
  • Being prepared to be open and honest when experiencing defeat – looking for both the positives and negatives of your performance and learning from both. Take the positives away – acknowledge the negatives but leave them behind.
  • Being able to stand up for yourself both on and off the court and not allowing yourself to be bullied or affected by poor decisions made by yourself and others.
  • Having an ability to take control of your own tennis destiny – take advice but be prepared to determine your own practice content, match strategy etc.
  • Being prepared to take risks – on and off the court – and deal with the consequences either way.
  • Believing in yourself and trusting your abilities at all times.
  • Being prepared to wake up each day with a positive outlook on the day ahead and an inner belief that you can achieve anything you desire if you are prepared to work hard for it. To wake each morning and be happy and ready to take on the challenges of the day.
  • Accepting that the tennis journey is a long one and each match, won or lost, is a stepping stone towards your goal.
  • Being able to ensure that set backs (a lost point, a lost game, a lost match) do not affect your next action and having an ability to put disappointment behind you as quickly as it happens.
  • Never giving up on court – in training or in a match. Finding solutions to problems if training or a match is not going your way.
  • Being able to restrict your concerns to the here and now and those things that are in your control. Anything that is outside of your control is not worthy of your time or concern as you can do nothing about it.

So before your player embarks on the long, hard journey of a tennis pro, get them to consider the points above. Take each one in turn and get them to ask themselves can they take all of this on board? If the answer is an unanimous YES then go for it! If however, there is any doubt (at all), then take time to review and re group to either work on the areas that are lacking or think about other options that might be more suitable. Tennis as a career is a long, hard, and very often, lonely journey and is not suited to all. It’s certainly not as glamorous as people are led to believe and any player seeking to go down that route needs to be aware of that! Good luck!

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4. ALL THE HARD WORK WAS WORTH IT!

You’ve been training for years. You’ve given up so much. All the friends parties you’ve missed; the school trips and sleepovers with friends. But then all at once it seems worthwhile. You’ve won the highest tournament of your career so far – the Coffee Bowl – the Grade 1 of Central America – and the Costa Rican crowd adore and you shed tears of joy. I am proud beyond words.

No one would say the Womens (or Mens) Tennis Tour is an easy ride but the same can be said for the Junior Tennis Tour. It can brutal and the level of commitment to training and travel is immense but when things work out, when that last point is won and your player is the one on the receiving end, all the blood, sweat and tears that have gone into that day, that moment, pale into insignificance. The feeling of joy is immense; euphoric; for the player and her team. It simply makes it all worthwhile.

As I say in my introduction to this Blog, Reality Tennis is about the good, the bad and the reality of tennis on the junior and senior tours from the perspective of a parental onlooker. Winning a tournament is obviously a ‘good’ and as a parent watching her player win a title, it is a high and such a joy to see her ecstatic reaction when that last ball is hit and the emotion takes over. Life is good – the hours on court; the personal sacrifices; the family disruption have all been worthwhile.

So if you reading this – as a player or a parent – or just a supporter – be inspired – keep up the training – listen to your coaches and advisors and one day, you will be rewarded. You may not win a Grand Slam but somewhere along the line, you will experience a personal victory – your own moment of glory – be it winning a match for school; being part of the County Cup Team; or winning a title on tour – it’s all relative. But remember, enjoy the moment but don’t think you’ve made it – because winning that first tournament is just the start and more hard work must follow! So long as you continue to love the game you are playing then continue for as long as you like or can afford and who knows what the future will bring.

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3. NOT QUITE AS IT SEEMS

The tournament venue in Buenos Aires, Argentina

So, your child wants to be a pro tennis player? “Great” I hear you cry! An opportunity to travel the world and make good money playing a sport that they love. 

But hang on! Is it really that easy!? For sure, the rewards for those that ‘make it’ are plentiful, but how tough is the journey to get there? Well, read on for a few things to think about. 

First of all, there is the ‘small issue’ of money. As I have said previously (Blog 2: “The Other Side of the Coin”), pro tennis costs money, and a lot of it. Only the top players (c.top 100) actually make money and this is largely from product endorsements as opposed to prize money. The reality is that until you reach at least 250 in the world (singles), you cannot even break even. The costs involved are astronomical. 

Secondly, is it safe? Why ask this you might say, but it’s a good question and one that has to be asked. On the whole, the answer is yes, or at least as safe as many other ‘jobs’ that involve extensive travel. Sometimes however, it is certainly not safe. I think back to a tournament in Buenos Aires. Sounds very glamourous – a tournament in the capital of Argentina. However, on arrival, my player and I discovered that the tournament venue was not only a 25-minute drive outside of the city, but that it was located within the infamous San Lorenzo Football Stadium complex which itself is situated in a suburb controlled entirely by drug cartels. Even the police do not enter the area – choosing instead to locate themselves at various check points around the border of the district. There was limited transport to and from the tournament venue to the hotel so there had to be a degree of reliance on local taxis but few taxi drivers were prepared to take us to the club as they feared mugging. Similarly, on the second day of the tournament, the women players had to be scheduled to play very early as they were advised to be ‘off site’ by 11am as there was a football match taking place later that day and the site was not deemed safe for women. 

Now clearly this example is one of the rarer situations a tennis player might expect to find themselves in but there is no hiding from the fact that the lower level (ITF Pro) tournaments are not always staged in particularly pleasant locations so much homework is required before a commitment to play is made. 

Another issue of safety that needs to be considered is the geographical location of the tournament in question and the risk of natural disasters. During my travels to date, I have already experienced two earthquakes – the first in Equador and the second in Chile. Now fortunately, my player and I were safe but having the furniture in your hotel room visibly move is somewhat alarming and unfamiliar! 

Similarly, whilst competing in the US, my player was staying with a host family when quite unexpectedly she was advised to move away from the windows and relocate herself within the house as a tornado was heading their way. Thankfully for her, tornadoes can be quite specific with their targets and it hit the road running parallel to where she was but she was able to watch it as it passed through and again it was an unfamiliar and somewhat unsettling sight!

On a similar vein, there is also the issue of political unrest. Whilst in both Brazil and Israel, my player (and I) have witnessed political rallies and for my player, much more extreme, has seen the inside of a bomb shelter whilst caught in the crossfire of the dispute between the Israelis and the Palestinians, which flared up overnight and was totally unexpected.

Slightly less extreme, there is also the issue of prize money. What do you do if you do well and win the tournament and are paid entirely in cash? Again whilst in Argentina, my player won the doubles but then had to travel to the next venue with an envelope full of local currency. Not only did she fear for her personal safety but she had the added problem of having to find a way of converting the Argentinian pesos (of which there were many – it was over 100 Arg Peso to the US $1 at the time) into a more universal currency which she could leave the country with and which was easier to hide on her person.

Now obviously these are extreme examples and much of the travel undergone by tennis players in pursuit of their sport is indeed safe! However, it is not to be assumed or taken lightly. 

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2. THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN

Looks a lot but take off the return flight to South Korea for player and coach and all the accommodation and food costs and you are in a big loss situation!

Whilst the media relish in the news that the UK has new number 1 tennis players in both the men’s and women’s games, who are already commanding highly lucrative endorsement contracts, spare a thought for the other side of the game and the very many lower ranked players who are working their socks off day in day out, waiting for that ‘lucky’ break which will launch them into the upper stratospheres of the game, or even just onto the WTA/ATP Tours as opposed to the all but forgotten ITF Pro Tour where the prize money barely covers the cost of the player getting to the tournament let alone playing in it. 

In reality it is only the top 100 or so players in the world who actually make any money out of tennis and most of this is from endorsements. For sure, those talented enough to win a Grand Slam or top-level WTA/ATP event, will go home with money in the bank (and deservedly so) but without this kind of cash, and the massive (and I mean massive) product endorsements, players ranked below that top 100 mark, especially those trying to break through the top 250 barrier, life is far from rosy. 

The reality is that tennis IS an elite sport. There is no getting away from it. If you have the cash to spend then you can afford the experienced coaches, the reputable training venues, the hitters, the back-up team etc, but without this you have to make sacrifices. You may only be able to employ a coach part time; you may have to practice on local courts as opposed to at a specialist academy; you may have to travel alone around the world to questionable (and sometimes, unsafe) places; but you do so for the love of the game and in the vain hope that one day your time will come and you will rise up the rankings and at least earn enough to cover your costs. 

So, what are the costs involved if you want to be a tennis player? Well, by far the biggest expenses relate to the cost of a coach and the cost of competing. A pro player will train on the court for, on average, 4 hours a day, 6 days a week. A suitably qualified coach will cost at least £40/hour which means the player is already in for £960/week. Add to this the cost of a fitness coach (at least £25/hour if lucky) say 5 times a week (£125), and you are already in for over £1000/week so £4000 per month. And this is just when you are training at home in the UK. 

Add to that the cost of physio at £50/session (should you get injured – and you do!); a psychologist (£50-£100/hour); the cost of kit (shoes alone cost c.£100 each and a player will get through a pair a month); strings (a reel of string alone costs over £200) and stringers (£20/racquet); and you are already at a huge loss even if you live at home rent free!

All of this is before you have even left the country to compete. To rise up the rankings you have to compete and this is a massively expensive exercise. By far the biggest costs are from flights and accommodation. The tournaments are staged all over the world and a player has to travel to where they think they have the best chance of success. So, this may mean ‘locally’ to Europe or much further afield to the US, South America or one of the other more far-flung continents. 

On top of flights, the player then has to pay for accommodation. Each tournament suggests a local hotel and many players will choose to stay there as they will, more often than not, provide transport from there to the tournament venue, but in order to save some money (as the hotels are rarely subsidised), some players choose to stay elsewhere but then they have the added costs of travel to and from the venue each day so it’s a fine balancing act to find the cheapest option. 

Add on meals, visas, laundry (yes players need to wash their kit each week), entry fees, balls (the players often have to pay for the first lot of practice balls) and each trip has set the player back several hundreds if not thousands of pounds (as players will tend to be away for 3-4 weeks at a time) and this is all without a coach. If a player takes his/her coach (which is preferable) then you need to double the expenses! 

Over the course of a year, a player will travel to compete for 20-30 weeks of the year and the costs of that will be at least £30k. Add on the costs of training at home for the remainder of the year, and a player is in for a bill of at least £50k-60k per annum. But here is the reality check. The winner of the a $25k tournament (the most commonly staged tournament event in the women’s game) only takes home £2800 (before tax) and a quarter finalist only £474 (before tax) so you do the maths! A player would need to win almost every tournament played at this level to get anywhere near close to covering the costs involved and in reality, that simply does not happen. 

Surely there are various governing bodies (national and county) that can support these players? Unfortunately, this is not the case. The county tennis associations have limited budgets and tend, on the most part, to give small grants towards juniors and or participation or small facility development projects (new courts surfaces, clubhouses etc). The national governing body, does on the other hand, have more significant funds but these are typically distributed to just a small pool of talent – the focus being on giving lots to a few rather than less to more. 

Other sources of financial support include families and friends if a player is lucky or the tennis charity, Tennis First, which offers small grants to juniors to help cover the cost of travel to competitions. However, whilst these sources are undoubtedly helpful to a struggling junior player, the need for investors/personal sponsors in the senior game is paramount if the UK is to be able to produce a continually developing flock of top-level players as opposed to one or two high fliers at any one time. 

Tennis is such a tough sport in so many ways. Not only does a player need great skill, fitness and tactical know how but they also require mental strength, resilience, self-belief and above all, finance! You can have all the skill in the world but if you do not have the financial support then you are finished and your talent will go to waste. I do wonder how many potential top-level players there are out there who simply cannot afford to play. 

So, when observing all the current media interest in the top flight players of this fine sport, spare a moment for those who have not quite got there yet and who are grinding it out day by day, week by week, making a financial loss but trying to hang onto a dream that they too can reach the top at some stage in the future. 

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1. WHAT IS REALITY TENNIS?

This site has been set up to offer an insight into the world of competitive tennis from the standpoint of parent who has had first hand experience of being alongside a junior player as she progressed through the ranks to become top 10 in the world, and who continues to be by her side as she tries to navigate the womens tour.

The views expressed are entirely and solely the personal views and real life accounts of the author, based upon true experiences whilst accompanying and spending significant amounts of time with the upcoming female player. Any views/suggestions made are referred to in the feminine form but can apply equally to both male and female genders.

The series of blogs seek to provide a realistic view of the competitive tennis scene and they are a must read for all parents of high performance players out there. The blogs will give you the good, the bad and the reality. The highs and lows of the tennis tour; the struggles, the pitfalls, and the things you don’t read about in the media but of which any young upcoming player/high performance parent should be aware.

I hope you enjoy reading my blogs and if you do, please subscribe for e mail updates and share the link so that together, we can raise awareness of how really tough the tennis journey can be so as to try and ease the pathway, at least a little, for the players of the future.

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